Praying for your husband might as well be the best thing you will ever do for him as a wife.

Prayer has eternal benefits whose impact will outlive our life here on earth to the hereafter.

As you pray, you are partnering with God to fulfill what he has purposed over your husband.

You and I know that what God has purposed is for good, not evil, to give us hope and a future. How much more when you are lifting your husband to God in prayer!

Furthermore, the Bible commands us to pray without ceasing. The Scriptures continue to instruct us not to be anxious about anything but in everything by prayer and supplication, to make our requests known to God. We are commanded to pray with all kinds of prayers and supplications and to keep praying for all the saints.

Whether your husband is a believer or not, you are in the will of God when you are praying for him. I’ll share how to pray for a husband who is not born again towards the end of this post.

These are not easy times we are living in. Men are being exposed to all sorts of scenarios wherever they turn, including right in the comfort of their homes.

These provide rife ground for the godliest of husbands to slip and fall if they are not on guard.

What with immodestly dressed girls and women around them? What with the internet providing an easy way out to engage in activity to satisfy their sexual urge without anyone ever knowing about it?

What with the allure of getting material wealth by dubious means to make a name for themselves as men?

These represent just a few of the struggles most men will face when they are seeking to lead godly lives.

This then begs the question: How do we pray for our husbands effectively?

You and I know that praying for our husbands in the light of God’s Word is the surest way of praying the will of God, especially when we have searched the Scriptures and can tell that they align with God’s will in that aspect that you are praying for your husband about.

It will also be critical for you and me as wives to depend on the Holy Spirit as we pray for our husbands. The Holy Spirit intercedes for us now that we know not what to pray for as we ought, even for our husbands. Trust Him to lead you as you pray.

The four areas I’m sharing below are areas I have sought God about, and he has led me to pray for my husband, as he has revealed from his Word.

I’m hopeful that these will resonate with you as you pray for your husband because they are based on God’s Word.

These first 2 Scriptures will help you to pray for your husband:

In Relation to God and to his own Household as the Leader

“Abraham will surely become a great and powerful nation, and all nations on earth will be blessed through him.

“For I have chosen him, so that he will direct his children and his household after him to keep the way of the LORD by doing what is right and just, so that the LORD will bring about for Abraham what he has promised him.”

(Gen.17:18-19)

“Now I want you to realize that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is man, and the head of Christ is God.”

(1Cor.11:3)

Because God has given the husband the mandate to lead his household, it is his will that the husband will direct his household in the fear of God. That he will lead his wife and children to walk in God’s ways.

A husband is a man, saved by the grace of God, a human being, and one who can easily be influenced by the standards of this world.

As you and I pray in light of this Scripture, I believe God works in a husband to help him point his family to him. He prepares, equips, and enables him to lead his family.

God will also help him to provide a conducive environment for his purposes to thrive in his wife and children.

This conducive environment could include discerning what is right for his children to read, watch, or even learn about in school. If it compromises God’s will, he can then stand and say no to such influences.

Note too that the husband is to lead his family after himself, as we can see in the Scripture above concerning Abraham. He should be walking with God already before he can lead his family.

Trust God in prayer that he will faithfully walk with God. That his relationship with God will be deep and personal. Then he can lead his family toward that kind of relationship with God.

The next set of Scriptures will help you pray for your husband:

In Relation to you, his Wife

“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her

to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word,

and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.

In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.”

(Eph.5:25-28)

“Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.”

(1Pet.3:7)

“Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.”

(Col.3:19)

No human being can love another as Christ loved. Only God can work in a husband, enabling him to love his wife this way.

You and I are aware of many marriages that are simply surviving by. Most couples have lost the spark, and the love they had for each other when they first got married. Some are even regretting why they married their spouses.

It’s true that because we are all human, we will not be excited as a couple with each other 100% of the time.

We should be experiencing God in our marriages in that we can see God at work helping us to love each other and bear with each other. We love because Christ first loved us.

That’s why it is wise for you as a wife not to make assumptions that your husband will love you selflessly automatically.

This will take God by his Spirit for him to love you as Christ loved his church. Pray this Scripture for him, trusting God that your husband will love you as Christ loved the church and gave himself for her.

Trust God in prayer that he will therefore live with you in an understanding way, knowing you are the weaker vessel.

Men and women are different. We won’t go to the details of these differences in this post. We’re however saying that for a husband to live with a wife right, in spite of the differences, it takes God as you and I pray specifically for our husbands in light of this Scripture.

Pray too for him that just as Christ leads the church, he will lead you as a wife, discipling you as it were, to be all that God wants you to be.

The third set of Scriptures will help you pray for your husband:

In Relation to His Children

“Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.”

(Eph:6:4)

“Fathers, do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged.”

(Col.3:21)

It takes the work of God by his Spirit for a man to patiently and lovingly handle his children.

A wise wife will specifically pray that God will work in her husband, helping him not to embitter or exasperate them.

A wife will pray that God will deal with any underlying issues that would cause a husband to treat his children harshly.

She’ll pray for his well-being spiritually. She trusts that her husband will be taught and equipped of the Lord to bring up his children in the instruction and admonition of the Lord.

She will pray that her husband will have a teachable heart to learn from others how to be the father to his children that God wants him to be.

Not many husbands understand that it’s their responsibility to ensure their children are being discipled unto godliness. Some have left this responsibility to their wives. Worse still, others have left that responsibility to the Sunday school at church.

In a nutshell, the few who have an inkling of discipling children have left this role to others.

Pray that God will open the eyes and heart of your husband to this truth so he can take up his God-ordained responsibility to bring his children up in the way of the Lord. You can then take up your position as a helper, to help him raise the children.

The fourth set of Scriptures will help you pray for your husband:

In Relation to Serving the Purposes of God

“For when David had served God’s purpose in his own generation, he fell asleep; he was buried with his fathers and his body decayed.”

(Acts.13:36)

“Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.”

(Matt.28:19-20)

As a helper, your desire should be that your husband will fulfill the purposes of God in his generation. You’re trusting God that his heart will be stirred towards seeing God save many and establish his rule and reign in the hearts of men.

Pray that he will thrive as a servant of God. Pray for him that he will be clear about his calling and mission so that he can fruitfully serve the purposes of God.

Pray too that he will identify his place in the body of Christ and at the local church, so he can plug in to be part of what God is doing around him.

What if your Husband is not a Believer?

Here are some encouraging Scriptures even before we say anything about this:

“The Lord is not slow in keeping his promise, as some understand slowness. He is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance.”

(2Pet.3:9)

“Say to them, ‘As surely as I live, declares the Sovereign LORD, I take no pleasure in the death of the wicked, but rather that they turn from their ways and live. Turn! Turn from your evil ways! Why will you die, O house of Israel?'”

(Ezek.33:11)

As a believing wife, you are best placed to pray for the salvation of your husband.

The Scriptures reveal that it is not God’s will that any man should perish in his sin. His will is that all would come to a saving knowledge of His grace.

For a long time, my husband and I, (my siblings too) never ceased to pray that my dad would be born again. My mum prayed for many years. God saved him a few years ago in his old age.

A few years ago, I read of a man of God who prayed for two particular men to be born again. It wasn’t until after his death did these two men come to a saving knowledge of God’s grace.

Never cease to pray for your husband’s salvation. God answers prayer. We trust he will.

In conclusion, in all, we’re basically trusting God that a husband will portray the godlike qualities of God who is both a husband and father to his people, our great high priest, and even the Lord Jesus Christ who is also the perfect man, our protector and provider, as well as the head over all.

For a husband to portray these 7 qualities of being a husband, a father, a priest, a man, a protector, a provider, and the head of his home, it must be that he is looking to God to be all he is making him to be.

I’m certain too that as you pray for him, God will intervene to answer, thus making him to be the man he wants him to be.

As a helper, pray without ceasing for your husband. You may just be the first beneficiary of the answers to your prayers, as you see God working in your husband, for good.

How to Pray for Your Husband in the Will of God: 4 Key Areas

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